| Are you looking at your old relationship through rose | | | | momentous event, but don't rush things. Take the |
| tinted glasses, dreaming of your ex, getting back | | | | relationship slowly. Get to know each other again. |
| together and living happily ever after? Sometimes it is | | | | This is a new relationship together. Go on dates, send |
| best to move onwards and upwards leaving your ex | | | | little cards and gifts, compliment each other but do |
| behind. | | | | not live in each others pockets just yet. |
| Second chance relationships can work out, but it is no | | | | 4. Give each other space |
| fairy tale or riding off into the sunset together. Just | | | | Recognise that while you are a couple again, you |
| remembering the good times, hoping everything will | | | | both still have individual lives outside of the |
| work out fine in your second chance romance, is a | | | | relationship. Have separate hobbies and interests so |
| pipe dream. | | | | you can get a breather from time to time. |
| A large dose of reality is needed if you and your ex | | | | 5. But come together too |
| getting back together is to be a success. You need | | | | Start a new hobby or activity together. Something |
| to remember and discuss the bad days and why the | | | | that is new to both of you but that you would both |
| relationship ended. Quite simply, you need to fix | | | | like to try. Choose an activity that you can work |
| those problems and be wary that history does not | | | | together on and encourage each other. Why not |
| repeat itself. | | | | take up salsa dancing or horse riding lessons? |
| You can have a super successful second chance | | | | 6. Communicate, communicate, communicate |
| relationship, here is how: | | | | Communication is the key to success for any |
| 1. Fix the old problems | | | | relationship. You have already jumped the first hurdle, |
| Your last relationship broke up for good reason. | | | | discussing your past problems. Don't let the |
| Jumping back into a new relationship with your ex | | | | communication slide now! Keep talking to each other |
| without fixing the old problems is asking for trouble. | | | | and make sure that you listen too. |
| Set up a few ground rules and agreements to | | | | 7. Put long-term plans on hold. |
| prevent the issues raising their ugly heads again. | | | | You have your ex back and you need time to build |
| 2. Forgive and don't hold grudges | | | | up and cement the new relationship. Now is not the |
| Understand that both of you made some mistakes. | | | | time to be planning weddings, buying property |
| Both of you were responsible for building up and | | | | together or having a baby. |
| breaking down the old relationship. Fix the issues then | | | | It is possible for a second chance relationship to be |
| forgive each other. Do not keep bringing up past | | | | successful. Getting back together will take time, |
| mistakes. | | | | patience and commitment from both of you. You can |
| 3. Slow down | | | | do it, but don't struggle alone. |
| You and your ex getting back together may be a | | | | |